Summer Focusing Circle

• For connection and a deeper bond in your relationships

• To be present in your body and communicate from there

• To feel more at ease in relationships

The Summer Focusing Circle is a weekly space to bring attention to your body and connect from there with others. The aim of this group is to practice living our life while staying connected to our inner world. This will bring more moments of connection with those around you, with yourself, and with nature, while reducing tensions. Each session will focus on a different aspect of relationships.

We will address three themes:

1. Being present in our body

Being present in our body while connecting to someone is the foundation of Summer Focusing. We will practice this in various exercises during the online meetings. It brings a new and Focusing way to engage in life, where each encounter brings a sense of aliveness.

Some people are quite self-contained and are less open to others. Others tend to disappear into the other and are less open to themselves. By experiencing that you can be with yourself while being with someone, you heal those parts of yourself that caused you to partly shut down.

We are wounded in relationship, and we can heal in relationship.

2. Sharing experiences

Once we have explored the foundation, we will move on to sharing our personal stories; things we have experienced that touched us. We do this with few words and from contact with our bodies. Feeling heard by another goes beyond the words that are spoken.

For a while, I carried several stories with me, both big and small. And although I talked about them with friends and Focused on them with my Focusing partners, it didn’t feel like anyone truly understood me. Summerlake Focusing changed that for me and my life started to flow again.

3. Healing challenging situations in relationships

We will regularly return to the first two themes because there is much to discover there, and because it can be beautifully combined with inner child work. The third theme is about the more challenging situations in relationships, like having to say "No," receiving criticism, or when someone withdraws. By exploring these situations from a safe setting, we learn to stay in our bodies and feel safer in relationships.

Focusing in relationship

One of my teachers: Yehudit First, uses the following metaphor for Focusing in relationship:

You bring your attention inwards, then you move your attention outside to the other, and back inside. It’s like knitting, where the thread goes in and out until a warm sweater or connection is created.

Practical Information

• Zoom: We will meet on Zoom; you will receive the link in advance.

• Duration: 1 hour.

• Time: The day and time are yet to be determined. If you are interested in this group, I would love to hear which days and times work best for you.

• Fee: € 10,-

You are warmly invited to the Summer Focusing circle. If you have no experience with Focusing or body-oriented work, it may be helpful to receive a Focusing session beforehand.